Erin Coyle
Writer | Threshold Tender for Life & Work Transitions
The
Threshold Session
A 90-minute conversation for people who've outgrown the life they've built.
You've been here before.
Not this exact place, but this feeling.
That familiar sense of being pulled in five directions at once — and none of them feeling completely right. Something has gone quiet in you that used to be loud. Or something has gotten loud that you've been trying to quiet for years.
Either way — it has your attention.
And thinking harder isn't helping. Neither is reading another book, finding another teacher, or
working through another plan.
Because the thing that's asking for your attention isn't in your head.
It's deeper. And more direct to access.
Here's what nobody tells you about that particular kind of stuckness.
More information won't fix it. Neither will another framework, another podcast, another masterclass on optimizing your schedule.
All of that just sends you deeper into the forest — to the poison ivy, the hornet's nest, the messy mud puddle.
You could read another book on bioluminescence and totally forget the light that’s already inside you.
The directions are already in there.
You don't need a plan. You need company.
In my experience, the people who helped me most weren't the ones with all the answers. They were the ones who tended the fire while I found my own.
That's the role I play now.
I've spent thirty years gathering tools, stories, practices, and wisdom from traditions that know something about thresholds — about what it means to be between the life you've left and the life that's trying to come into being.
Because what looks like confusion is often something else entirely.
It might be grief you haven't had time to sit with yet.
It might be a calling you've been talking yourself out of.
It might be wisdom your body has been trying to deliver for years — but your head keeps getting in the way by overthinking it.
Reasons why people book a
Threshold Session
Big life transitions
Something has stopped you in your tracks. Everyone wants to know what's next, and you're still trying to make sense of where you are.
Chronic illness or health issues
Your body has changed the conversation. Now you're learning how to build a life around a different set of realities.
Career & business transitions
The work you've built no longer fits the person you've become. You can feel that something wants to change, but you can't quite see the shape of it yet.
Creative projects
Maybe there's a book, business, class, offering, or creative project that's trying to emerge and you can't quite find its shape.
Identity shifts
The old story doesn't fit anymore. You're not quite sure who you're becoming, but you know you're not who you used to be.
Purpose & direction
You've got that gnawing feeling there's something you're supposed to be doing. You just wish someone would turn on the damn flashlight long enough for you to see what it is.
I came in with something alive that had its own intelligence — but could have easily turned into months of navel-gazing or stuckness. Working with Erin felt like having a shepherdess. She was the banks of the river — giving structure without forcing anything. I never felt rushed, and the work that emerged felt completely like me.
Julia Corley
LCMHC, LMBT
Certified Hakomi Therapist & Trainer,
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner
What happens in a Threshold Session
We meet for 90 minutes.
You bring whatever is actually alive for you right now:
a transition you don't have words for yet
grief you've been too busy to feel
work that keeps finding you no matter how many times you try to think past it
some decision you can feel in your body, but your head keeps overriding
Or maybe there's just a big swirl of stuff and you don't know where to put your energy. That's totally fine. Bring that.
You don't need to have it figured out before you arrive. The not-knowing is often exactly where the most important thing lives.
Together we slow down and follow the thread: the gnawing feeling, the pull, the thing that keeps showing up no matter how many times you try to think past it.
And then we find language for it, so you can actually use it. So it stops being a vague ache and starts being a direction.
What you leave with :
Language that feels
like home
A way of talking about your work that finally sounds like you.
Deeper self-trust
The confidence that comes from hearing yourself clearly.
A clearer center
A felt sense of your own pacing, rhythm, and enoughness.
Clearer focus
Knowing what to focus on, and what to let go of.
Clearer direction
Not a 10-step plan, but a clear next step your body actually agrees with.
Deeper insight
The deeper thread running beneath your work, choices, and life.
And within 48 hours...
You'll receive two things that help the work keep unfolding long after our session ends.
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That puts words to what we've uncovered together.
Not a coaching summary or pages of notes.
The things that came directly from you.
The kind of thing you print out, underline, stick on the fridge, dream with, or come back to six months later when life turns up the volume again (as it always does) and you start wondering if you imagined the whole thing.
It'll be there to help you remember what you already knew before fear, obligation, or someone else's strong opinions about your life convinced you otherwise.
A Written Reflection
A Personal Resource List
Books, practices, traditions, stories — drawn from thirty years of gathering and chosen specifically for where you are right now.
The kinds of things I'd hand to a good friend standing exactly where you're standing.
I cried when I read what came through our work together. It felt like I finally sounded like myself again—only clearer.
Stacy Thomas
MA, LPC, SEP
Licensed Professional Counselor,
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner
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This session might be for you if:
Everything feels important and you don't know where to put your energy.
You can feel a threshold but don't yet have words for what's on the other side.
The language you've been using no longer fits who you're becoming.
You have a project, offering, book, or business trying to emerge.
You're moving through grief, burnout, illness, or a major life transition.
You're tired of collecting advice and ready to hear your own wisdom.
This session may not be for you if you're...
looking for a rigid plan, formula, or productivity system
wanting someone to push you past your limits or override what your body is saying
not open to slowing down long enough to listen
insist on quick answers without reflection or integration
Most people arrive feeling pulled in five directions. They leave knowing what actually matters, and where to put their energy next.
The practical details
We meet for 90 minutes on Zoom or on the phone, whichever works best for you.
The session is $379.
You'll leave with a direction your body agrees with, a written reflection to return to when life gets loud again, and carefully chosen books, stories, and practices that meet you exactly where you are.
I know, ninety minutes won't answer every question you've ever had.
But it might answer the one question that's been following you around for months. The one that's there when you're lying awake past midnight, that you find yourself mulling over while eating your morning granola. The one that whispers: "you're not ready yet, just take another course" — leaving you to wonder if there's just one more piece you need before you're allowed to begin.
You won't leave with more information. You have plenty of that already.
You'll leave trusting what you already know.
Some answers to your questions
FAQ's
Is this therapy or coaching?
Not exactly. It's more like having someone keep you company while you figure out what you need. Most people come because they're standing at a crossroads and something in their life: work, identity, creativity, relationships, or health – doesn't feel right and they can't quite see the way forward. I don't tell you what to do. Or set a bunch of tasks that you're supposed to complete. I help you hear what your own system already knows, make meaning of what's happening, and find language for what wants to emerge next. Some people leave with clarity about a life decision or a new way of talking about their work or next phase. Some get a deeper understanding of the story they're living. Most leave feeling more like themselves.
What happens during a session?
Every session is different because every person is different. My background includes writing, somatic practice, mythology, mindfulness, plant wisdom, energy work, and other earth-rooted and contemplative traditions. Sometimes our work is deeply practical: if you need to write something for your website, we'll do that. Sometimes it's symbolic: if you've been dreaming of foxes, we'll explore that. Sometimes we'll do a little of both. I don't follow a fixed method. Instead, I draw from what feels most supportive and relevant for the person sitting in front of me. The focus is always on helping you hear yourself more clearly. You're the one in charge. I'll never push you to do anything that doesn't feel right to you.
What if I don't know what I want to talk about?
Good. That's actually the ideal starting place. The not-knowing is often exactly where the most important thing lives. Come as you are.
What if I'm not sure I'm ready?
You're reading this page. That's usually a sign. The most common thing people tell me after a session isn't "I feel clear." It's "I feel like myself again." That's different. Clarity can still be ignored. Feeling like yourself is harder to talk yourself out of. If you'd like to get a feel for the work before committing, start with the free practice below, or check out the Writing & Resources page.
What if I've tried everything?
Good. Then you already know what doesn't work. What you haven't tried is slowing down long enough to hear what you already know. That's all this is. And it turns out that's the part that changes things.
I felt like I could say anything to Erin without being judged. Time together felt safe — like we could explore ideas or life stuff honestly. Very few people are truly present in conversation anymore, but when I was with Erin, we were really together. I appreciated that more than I can say.
Tracy J.
MEd, Teacher, Hedge Witch
If one conversation isn't enough...
Some people feel complete after one session.
Others discover that one conversation opens a door they're not quite ready
to walk through alone.
I only take a small number of people into that longer work at a time, because I want to be fully there for those I work with in this deeper way. So it happens by invitation, after we've met.
If that ends up being you,
A Season of Tending is where that work happens.
Erin doesn’t do surface-level conversations. From the moment you meet her, you’re talking about things that actually matter — the kind of 4-a.m., six-pack conversations that we had in broad daylight—exactly where they belong. She just lives there. It’s refreshing and grounding at the same time.
Amy Funderburk
Award Winning Visionary Artist,
Arts Educator, and Freelance Writer
Imagine leaving a conversation feeling whole.
Not because everything is solved, but because something in you finally got quiet enough to speak.
You'll know what's yours to carry and what isn't and finally have language for the thing that's been living in you without a name.
And for the first time in a while, the next step won't feel like a guess.
It will feel like something you already knew, and finally got to say out loud.
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